My latest thought: Perhaps it's also important for me to lose time with everyone I meet? It's one of the reasons I choose to spend time with one or two people, rather than in groups. I feel myself too hurried and too protective when even three or four are in conversation. I crave the slow.
There is a siren call to be more of myself, to experience more of myself. I am choosing to listen. To keep things simpler, slower, quieter. And then I begin to hear things, and wonder about things.
One of the most beautiful things I can do for myself and everyone around me is to retrain my nervous system. As a masculine-identified man I'm trained in the defensive/offensive “warrior” mode. There are good reasons for this. Today, there are better reasons to learn something new.
I used to think this was a 50/50 thing. I used to think that we were equally responsible for this trusting at the crossing. I believed that it was up to this thing called "us," whether the crossing was made or not. This belief was a fundamental failing my relationships. I know differently now.
I used to think I needed someone to love me, for that feeling to be real. Now, I know better.
My father wasn’t an easy father for me to be a son to. I know I'm not unique, as a son. I think many (all?) of our fathers want things for us and from us. Sometimes that casts a shadow. Sometimes it's an inspiration.
I've asked people to tell about success and love relationships on the Apprenticeship to Love chat group. Please join me and give me your thoughts.
A Crooked Path to Sacred Marriage
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Rarely do we have the guidance or the discipline to fall into the mystery of our desire. It is in this mystery, in the enchantment of it, that we may discover the truth of our desire.
Breathe. Be amazed, and humbled, at the power of a heart learning to open, learning to hold it all.
The men and women who come to me are often swimming in deep, dark waters. They're troubled. They are, perhaps, hoping I can throw them a line. I'm hoping I can teach them to "drown proof" their marriages. To discover their capacities, their limits, and ways to enjoy what deep waters bring.
I work with couples to create ceremonies that support long term commitment and success in their marriages.
This is a special chapter of the Apprenticeship to Love. Occasioned by a wedding, and by yesterday's events in Iran and Washington, DC. Today’s question: In the face of the world and its suffering, what shoulders are you offering for others to stand on?
Today’s question: How are you disappointed in life, in this moment? What if your disappointment were the key to understanding what this moment longs to give you? - Rev. Hans Peter Meyer